The person you want to talk to is now only one person away

05 January 2010 | blog,Introspective | 2 Comments

I’m working last minute to create a blog post that technically goes up before midnight to keep my blogging each day of January alive.  Today has been hectic, long and emotionally trying but the opportunity presented itself for me to play the role I seem destined to for folks and that makes me genuinely happy: the role of connector.

My mentor and good friend said to me a couple months back that “the person you want to talk to is now only one person away.”  At first I brushed him off and thought that the expanding networks through social media, blogs and real world meetups were isolated things that didn’t have any real impact on who any one person really knew.  Then it happened not once but three times right in front of my face in a matter of a week.  People would either say to or around me that they wanted to speak to one very specific person.  Through either a connection of my own or someone else in the group we were talking in we knew the person they wanted to talk to.  Not in some “I met that person once” kind of way but rather the “I hung out with them non-stop at X conference a year ago” way where picking up a phone or firing off an email was a natural next step. It always amazed me how genuine each of those connections has been and the ability for myself and those other people to play no other role away from making the initial connection.  That simple action makes each one of us the elbow of a business deal as Chris Brogan would say but I think is better described as being a catalyst.  (Not to mention I love the idea of something changing it’s environment but remaining itself unchanged.)

That’s why I love my BeCovalent groups and more importantly why I’m slowing the growth of the program and decided to ice the monetization scheme on it for the time being.  I want to enjoy these people, their businesses and their networks of folks who genuinely kick ass and produce real business results.  I can’t stress how big a deal that actually making that initial connection can make a world of difference and as a result of my doing it for the last four months for these groups and people at large I feel that the world is a friendlier place.  I logically know the world isn’t any different but rather my interpretation of it is. As Robert Frost said in “The Road Not Taken”: “And that has made all the difference.”

In this day where an email, a tweet or a blog comment can mean both so much and so little to someone simultaneously I feel the need to start pushing myself back to the road not taken or even the roads not easily taken to force myself to see not only my surroundings but myself differently.  I tend to think I will end up making more of those connections between discrete groups because I simply believe that both parties are cool and that they need to go do something cool together with no business or financial gain directly for myself.  (If you knew me a year ago, you may be shocked that I’m now saying this after having been the guy who was all about extracting financial value from any and every situation.)

So now I turn to you, my friendly reader, and ask “Which road are you choosing today?”

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